You’re Not Stuck. You’re Just Operating from Default

Let’s just be honest for a second. How many times have you thought, I’m stuck? You’re doing your best. You’re showing up. And yet... it feels like something isn’t moving.

For years, I thought I was the problem. Maybe I wasn’t disciplined enough, motivated enough, or confident enough to change the way my life looked and felt. I didn’t realize that what I was calling “stuck” was really just me running old code, unconscious patterns, and beliefs that were never mine to keep in the first place.

That’s the thing about a default setting. It’s automatic. It’s familiar.

It doesn’t ask if it still fits. It just runs.

Most of us don’t even realize we’re living from our default until something inside us whispers: This doesn’t feel like me anymore. That whisper is sacred. It’s not just discomfort, it’s an invitation to disrupt what’s been keeping you small, stuck, or quietly surviving.

The hard part? That old version of you, the one who’s been carrying the weight, doing the most, keeping the peace, managing the chaos, she’s been doing what she had to do. She’s not wrong. She just doesn’t get to run the show anymore.

Disrupting your default isn’t about burning your life down. It’s about waking up to the ways you’ve been shrinking.

It’s about choosing something better, even when “better” feels uncertain.

It starts with one brave question:
What’s the truth I haven’t been willing to say out loud? Start there.

You’re not stuck. You’re just done pretending the old way still works.

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Disrupt Your Default is the book I wish I’d had when I was trying to find my way back to myself. If you’re ready to break the loop and rewrite what’s next, you’re not alone.